The basic rule of thumb, the outer envelope of your wedding invitation should be addressed in a more formal manner, with titles and full names. Whether you are addressing them yourself with a fancy pen, having a calligrapher do their magic or having them printed to match with your invitation design they should look fabulous, be accurate and legible. See examples below...
To a Married Couple
Mr. John and Mrs. Samantha Holt
Mr. and Mrs. John Holt
To a Married Couple Who Uses Different Last Names
List the person you're closest with first. If you're similarly acquainted with both, list them in alphabetical order.
Mr. John Holt and Mrs. Samantha Thuente
To an Unmarried Couple Living Together
Mr. Joseph Hirsch and Ms. Rebecca Strecker
Same Sex Couples
Ms. Celine Elgin and Ms. Jacqueline Purcell
Or list their full names without titles
Joseph Hirsch and Rebecca Strecker
Celine Elgin and Jacqueline Purcell
To a Married Woman Doctor or Two Married Doctors
If a woman uses her maiden name professionally and socially, the envelopes should read... Dr. Anne Barker and Mr. Peter Underwood
If she uses her husband's name socially...
Dr. Anne and Mr. Peter Underwood
If both parties are doctors, you can address the outer envelope...
Doctors Anne and Peter Underwood
To Those With Other Distinguished Titles
Apply the same rules for military personnel, judges, reverends, and so forth that you
use for doctors. If both titles don't fit on one line, indent the second line.
The Honorable Jane Kelly and Lieutenant Jonathan Kelly, U.S. Navy
Captains Jane and Jonathan Kelly,
To Children and Families
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Abraham
Daniel, Jeffrey, Miss Brittany and Miss Kelly
To Children 18 and Older
They should receive their own invitations (unless they live at home with mom and dad).
Ms. Audrey Abraham
Mr. Jack Abraham
Note: If you don't include each child's name, you're implying that children are not invited.
That said, don't be surprised if some guests still mistakenly assume their children are
welcome. If you're concerned this will happen with your guests, ask your immediate family
and bridal party to help spread the word that the wedding will be adults only. In the end,
you may have to follow up with guests who don't get the message via phone to gently
explain the situation.
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